Once again, I was sitting at a computer trying to figure out how to get a video to play from the internet, through a projector and onto the screen. Seemed to me that this should be a simple task. But I’ve struggled with this more than once. And, if I’m going to be honest, I’ve probably struggled with it a dozen times.
So, I contacted our amazing, can-do-anything-on-a-computer tech guy with, “I realize I’ve probably asked you this before, and I think I know the answer, I’m just having a hard time believing the answer. Is there no possible way to play a video from the internet, through our program, onto the screen in the multi-purpose room?” His answer was “nope.”
I sat there for a few minutes trying to wrap my mind around his answer. Really? In the 21st century, when computers can do ANYTHING, I can’t do this? I wondered why I was having such a difficult time believing I couldn’t do this.
And then it dawned on me. I’m having a hard time accepting “nope” because I don’t want to believe it. I WANT to play this video for an audience on a particular night. I want this computer, this little intangible, life-sucking thing, to do what I want it to do.
And then all the connections started to make sense. This is why someone has a hard time believing how their spouse’s brooding, cold-shoulder is devastating their family. This is why a person may have a hard time owning their resentment and hatred for their spouse. This is why a parent can’t wrap their minds around the fact that their teenaged child is making (poor) decisions on their own and they can’t control them anymore. And this is why an adult child can’t stop trying to please a destructive parent. There are reasons we hold on to what we hold on to. If we believed it, we’d have to stop trying to make something happen. We would need to stop trying to suck love out of someone who can’t give it. And it hurts to let go of what we want.
In letting go of my little computer struggle I found freedom. Freedom to not try to come up with ways to get it done and freedom to find alternative solutions. I can’t make the computer do what it’s not capable of doing. When I was able to accept the reality of my situation, I was able to stop spinning in circles and move forward.